I've been stewing about something since this past Sunday, which you'll recall was Easter, trying to formulate my thoughts into something coherent. Because I'm nothing if not a stewer, a mull-it-overer, a stresser. I'm like Meg Ryan's character in You've Got Mail, never having the perfect comeback when she needs it, then chewing on this for days when it's no longer useful. Anyway, back to Easter... If you follow me on Instagram, you might have seen these:
|Here's the recipe if you're interested: Lemon Mascarpone Cupcakes|
We were invited to Easter dinner with family and I was in charge of dessert. I wanted to make something that felt spring-ish, so I baked lemon cupcakes with cream cheese frosting. I was pretty proud of how they turned out—despite the fact that they are just cupcakes—so I posted a photo of them on Instagram and Facebook (my FB friends don't follow my Instagram account). When I mentioned that I'd posted this photo at dinner, I was met with:
"You need to get a life."
Um, okay? It seems like a perfectly harmless thing to say, a joke and nothing more. And let's face it, Instagram users do kind of post a lot of pictures of what they're eating. But. This is not the first time I've been the recipient of this kind of comment, this same sentiment, this idea that I should be putting my time to better use. And it's also not just about Instagram or Facebook, it's about spending my time writing, blogging, cultivating friendships with people I've never met 'in real life'. A good number of people in my real life don't get that. It's as though I've told them I'm pen pals with some creeper behind bars.
While a bit annoyed by the comment, it also got me to thinking about why I started blogging, tweeting, tumbling, Instagramming, whatever in the first place: to make connections with like-minded* people. See, the unfortunate fact is that I don't know anybody in real life who shares my interest in reading and writing YA (except my sister, and I count myself pretty darn lucky to have her). The thing about these people, these connections I've made, is that we all like to share what we create, what we love, what inspires us. It doesn't matter if it's something huge like posting a snippet from our WIPs for the first time, doing a Next Big Thing post, or yes, even sharing a photo of some (really tasty) cupcakes. We imagine, we create, we share. That's how we roll. And that's what I love so much about this community. Nobody here tells me I need to get a life.
The truth is, I do have a life. It may not always thrill me to bits or have me bouncing out of bed in the morning raring to go and take on the day, but it's my life and nobody gets to tell me that it's not good enough. I guess that's my perfect comeback.
* By 'like-minded' I mean 'share similar interests and aspirations'.