I suck at resolutions, goal-setting and follow through, and while I really do love the idea, picking one word to rule the year has never really panned out for me either. I know one of the only ways to find success when striving for change is to set out specific and attainable goals, so I know that I might just be setting myself up for failure here by taking a more general aim at change. I’m going to go ahead and give it a whirl anyway. Instead of one word, I’m going to pick a phrase--a label, if you will--for 2014:
Vague enough? Let me elaborate a little bit. There are so many things about the way I’ve been living my life that make me want to shake myself, kick my own arse, throw myself a look of haughty derision. I’ve become uninspired, unmotivated, undisciplined…just un-everything. Not cool, Jaime. Not cool. In short, I’m disappointed with the slug I’ve allowed myself to become. So, here’s what I mean by “doing things differently” (and by “differently”, I’m allowing that any and all change for the better counts):
…wasting time on things that don’t matter (i.e. watching lame TV shows, checking and re-checking all of my social media accounts a gazillion times a day, worrying all the frigging time about things completely out of my control).
…letting stupid things annoy the heck out of me. (Related to the first point, sure, but it deserves its own mention because it’s a massive pitfall for me.)
…allowing toxic relationships to drag me down. (Limit the time I spend with certain people or steer clear of them and their negativity/bullying/passive aggression/whatever altogether. Maybe even stand up for myself now and then.)
…waiting for things to change and instead do things to make them change. (“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step” or some such.)
…being passive and/or lazy about so many things.
…actively seeking balance in my life by allotting larger chunks of time to the things that matter and relegating the crud that doesn’t to much, much smaller time slots. (Watching lame TV vs. writing. Not really a hard decision, right?)
…making healthier food choices. (This would not take much right now. Any upward movement in this area would be considerable progress. Seriously.)
…working exercise into my daily schedule (before my health gets any worse, before my knees completely give out from all the sitting I’ve been doing, before I’m down to only stretchy pants...eek).
...being a better wife, friend, sister, daughter. (I too often drop the ball here, which is completely inexcusable.)
...getting comfortable with the word "no". (It's okay to say "no" to things I don't have time for/don't want to do.)
…pushing harder toward what I want out of life. (I’d like to be published, to become better at the instruments I play, to become more fluent in second languages that I already have some degree of proficiency in, to take up photography and any number of other things I want to learn…)
|Here's to being sillier.|
I turned 35 this past summer, and while that makes me groan (because ugh) and at the same time feel fortunate to be given even that many years, it’s a reminder that I’m not getting any younger. Life is too darn brief to sit idly by while it speeds past. Above all, next year at this time, I'd like to look back on 2014 with minimal regrets and an overall feeling of satisfaction with all that the year held.
So here’s to 2014, THE YEAR OF DOING THINGS DIFFERENTLY.